The challenge comes from the fact that it is our elephant, or emotional brain, that records our life’s experiences, including our business experiences. Because it is our mammalian brain, it is prehistorically wired to keep us safe. That’s why the elephant doesn’t like change - in the deepest, subconscious sense, a change is a threat to our safety. If a negative or painful business experience happens, our elephant records the story and then works very hard to avoid it happening again!
This routine by itself is fine. The problem is that our brain has to process about 400,000 decisions about our safety and everything else in our lives every second. In order to be more efficient, it creates little shortcuts and automatic habits that run on their own. Over time, all of these stories about events form our beliefs, control our habits and behaviours, and create our reality. Or more precisely, our perception of reality. Shakespeare’s Hamlet said: “There is nothing neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”
Our “thinking” is the combination of both the conscious efforts of the rider and the subconscious efforts of the elephant. The research basically says that the elephant performs most (93%) of the decision-making on autopilot and even when we “think” we are being rational, the elephant is just feeding the rider the thoughts subconsciously in order to align with the memory bank of our past stories.
A good coach has a thorough understanding of human behaviour. They are trained to recognize the self-limiting beliefs and behaviours which are the biggest barriers to personal and business growth.
It’s just human nature. Any business owner can more easily coach another business owner as opposed to trying to coach themselves. The benefit of a coach is that they are not in the business. They can look at it from a completely different perspective.